Apparently I Have Shit for Brains

I responded to some well written requests in the platonic section. I am looking to make more friends out here and create stronger ties. Most of my responses went without a response back to me. But one man actually replied to me within 24 hours. He had been in the area for about 2 years and is about the same age as me and had similar interests. I was happy about the response. He then called me and we made plans to meet. I will admit that there were a couple of long pauses on the phone but it is kinda hard to speak to someone you don't know on the phone. In person those pauses get absorbed by the situation plus I know I was carrying the conversation on the phone and was deliberately trying to put some one him.


He called me the day we were to meet for coffee and said although it is his day off he go called unexpectedly by his boss to go to Anaheim for a business conference. A bit strange - kinda like someone in Boston getting called on a Saturday to go to Providence last minute. But I understood - some businesses are last minute like that. We rescheduled to the next day at a time he stated was good. The next day I sent a text to confirm the time and he replied that his business needs in Anaheim got extended and he was still there. The oddness grows. He told me he would contact me.


A week passes and I hear nothing so I both get the hint and get annoyed. I send a nasty gram that simply states -"thanks for being just another flake - obviously you are not the definition of a southern gentleman - i get the hint - adios". Of course he replies back to state that the only person that has ever truly accepted him died unexpectedly and he had to rush home to TN so naturally I am the bad guy here. Fuck you and your load of horseshit too! What is that saying Matt??? Oh yeah, "I'm not your bitch so don't put your shit on me". If his lame ass story was true wouldn't his response be I got your message and understand why you are annoyed. Of course not because then it would mean there was actually someone else in the world to consider. I can be the bad guy if that is what someone needs me to be. There is no such thing as coincidence.


I responded back to state that in any case obviously between his professional and personal demands that timing is not good for him right now. I told him I was truly sorry for his loss but moreover that he only had one person that accepted him for who he is as that is tragic and makes me count my blessings. I clicked send, deleted all info and then was happy to put that all to an end. I am annoyed as all I was trying to do was to instigate a friendship. I am still naive enough to believe that it should not be such a difficult task to accomplish. If his story were true I would have gladly apologized for my incorrect assumption. Seeing as he used it to simply make me into the bad guy completely underscores my happiness with the delete key.